Having spoken to various women about the subject, many of them in their twenties, there seems to be a general consensus that a lot of women feel that they are feminists, but do not associate themselves with the angry, man-hating women who call themselves feminists even though they may be using the definition incorrectly.
So who really is a ‘true’ feminist? Feminism itself is classed as ‘the advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes’ according to Google. And most women feel that ‘feminists’ are those who ‘believe in gender equality’.
So why are many women not comfortable with claiming themselves to be feminists even if they do believe in gender equality? Apparently, when they think of feminism and feminists they think of angry, man-hating, bra-burning feminists who really have nothing at all in common with them. They do not feel that in order to be a feminist you have to be angry and against men, nor do you have to fit in with other stereotypes relating to feminists.
It is true that when you do a bit of research on the internet you do come across those who call themselves feminists but appear to be using the word in order to promote their own angry, man-hating agenda. I too feel that those women do not really represent ‘true’ feminists’ who can be many different female types and characters, and who want to ‘calmly’ promote gender equality.
This is not to say that women shouldn’t be angry or shouldn’t hate men if that is how they feel, but it is not an all-encompassing representation of feminists, many of whom like the decent, good men, who like to wear bras and make-up and shouldn’t have to justify this to anyone, who get frustrated and annoyed by gender inequalities but who do not ‘fight the fight’ so-to-speak through anger – those women are not real feminists in my opinion. I believe that they have some other agenda or some other bug-bear that they are using feminism to express, and this is not fair to the cause, especially since it puts off a lot of women, and especially young women.
But then hey, many causes have those who twist the ideals in order to promote some other agenda. I guess it is just a question of being able to see through those who are genuine and are genuine in their feminist beliefs, and those who pose as feminists when they should really air their anger via some other method.